Well, I am not really talking about my mother or yours. Its just my obnoxious way of referring to the mommy war that has gone viral over the cyber world and has ignited many living room conversations in the past days. First article is called, literally “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” which ropes in many other cultures as well, since the author took the liberty of using the word “Chinese” loosely, and its only fair for its western counterpart to be aptly named “Why American Mothers are Superior”.
Usually articles of such nature make me chuckle, a face off between a Yale professor and an academician – cum – entrepreneur – cum – world judo champ is right up my alley, so naturally I ventured into these articles, to my grave disappointment there was not an iota of humour in either of them. I was flabbergasted by the crassness of both the authors.
I have seen parents sneaking in their kid’s achievements in routine conversations all the time, but have never seen parents boasting about their own parenting styles in parallel to trashing not one parent but an entire culture or cultures. What happened to some good old-fashioned humility?
No culture is better than other and same applies to different parenting styles. Each parent is unique and it is no one’s business to judge how they raise their kids. What is good or bad is an abstract notion, there is nothing absolute when it comes to raising a child. Being said that, it is not so difficult to be mindful of people around us, you don’t have to be a saint for that, just use your inner voices when you have an urge to prove superiority over others. As a French philosopher once said “To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them”.