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Einstein once said, “Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death”. True. If only it were streamlined and would never reach a point of melancholic saturation. A point where one feels the need to abandon all the pensiveness and move to a place in life which does not thrive on cognition. The current chain of events around the world, does make one wonder if such a place can be reached.
As we grow up, our perspectives change incessantly. First we believe in a man who lives in North Pole, rides over our houses and delivers presents through our chimneys. Then, we believe, there is a Howard Roark amongst us. Soon, this belief changes to hope. When we are young, we think a lot about notions like truth, happiness, idea of love, even life. We grasp all this and move on. A part of this moving on starts with getting the small glimpses of reality, lingering between our still unadulterated world view. And then we reach a certain point in our lives , when nothing seem to make sense. Left brain completely takes over its counterpart. I feel I have reached that point.
Centuries of history and civilizations seem to be a farce. We have not gotten much ahead, or so it seems. When a 11-year-old victim of a sex crime is accused of provoking the offenders, there is something horribly wrong with the world we live in. When not one but multiple people try to find humour in one of the worst calamities of our time, it is clear that only our bodies have evolved and passed the era of hominids. When tyrants still exist and live amongst us, have the power to create havoc and play with lives. Notions of truth, fairness and humanity cease to exist. I would like to resort to faith, if you will, in such times. But that door closed on my face when we chose to decide that marriage can only be between a man and a woman but it’s okay to have pedophiles serve our churches and temples.
I know, I am not the only one who feels this way. There are many of us trying to escape the pangs of helplessness. An occasional Robert Downy Jr. flick is usually effective. Dark chocolate can do wonders as well. The world is just going to hell or the New England’s winter is finally getting me. I sure hope it’s the latter.
Well, I am not really talking about my mother or yours. Its just my obnoxious way of referring to the mommy war that has gone viral over the cyber world and has ignited many living room conversations in the past days. First article is called, literally “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” which ropes in many other cultures as well, since the author took the liberty of using the word “Chinese” loosely, and its only fair for its western counterpart to be aptly named “Why American Mothers are Superior”.
Usually articles of such nature make me chuckle, a face off between a Yale professor and an academician – cum – entrepreneur – cum – world judo champ is right up my alley, so naturally I ventured into these articles, to my grave disappointment there was not an iota of humour in either of them. I was flabbergasted by the crassness of both the authors.
I have seen parents sneaking in their kid’s achievements in routine conversations all the time, but have never seen parents boasting about their own parenting styles in parallel to trashing not one parent but an entire culture or cultures. What happened to some good old-fashioned humility?
No culture is better than other and same applies to different parenting styles. Each parent is unique and it is no one’s business to judge how they raise their kids. What is good or bad is an abstract notion, there is nothing absolute when it comes to raising a child. Being said that, it is not so difficult to be mindful of people around us, you don’t have to be a saint for that, just use your inner voices when you have an urge to prove superiority over others. As a French philosopher once said “To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them”.